As one who got out before getting baptized, I can sort of see what you're saying. There is definitely a pecking order in the KH, and even a visitor can figure it out, if you're paying attention. "We're all equals," is one of those claims they make that just aren't true.
Since we were shiny and new, we never got demoted to stepchild. I think I noticed it happening to one unnoticable lady in the congregation. She got baptized at the CA, and I heard the comment from someone, "Oh, she's finally doing that huh?" There didn't seem to be a lot of joy in it.
I observed a few baptism "talks" and ceremonies, as a non-JW (student). They were creepy.